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20+14 Questions: Exchange Edition- Janderson 2015

2015-03-03 16:51:17

1. What is your favorite color? White 2. What is your favorite toy? Cellphone 3. What is your favorite fruit? Apple 4. What is your favorite tv show? X Factor 5. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch? Beans, Rice, Salad, Fries, and Steak (Brazilian Style) 6. What is your favorite outfit? Abercrombie & Fitch clothes 7. What is your favorite game? Sim City 8. What is your favorite snack? Chocolate Caramel Special K Pastry Crisps 9. What is your favorite animal? Lion 10. What is your favorite song? Young by Tulisa 11. What is your favorite book? A menina do vale by Bel Pesce 12. Who is your best friend? Mateus 13. What is your favorite cereal? Coco Puffs 14. What is your favorite thing to do outside? Go To The Beach 15. What is your favorite drink? Orange Juice 16. What is your favorite holiday? Carnival 17. What do you like to take to bed with you at night? My Cellphone 18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Eggs, Bacon, Toast, Sausage, Homefries, Orange Juice 19. What do you want for dinner on your birthday? Picanha 20. What do you want to be when you grow up?  CEO of a Big Company 21. If I were President I would…  Improve Education in Brazil. 22. I am afraid of… Dragonflies 23. Name one thing you do really well.  Design 24. Describe what it means to be a good friend. Trustworthy 25. What is your favorite time of day? Nighttime 26. Describe your best day ever? First Day in NYC 2014 27. Favorite hobby. Music 28. I wish there were a law that said….. People have to take showers daily 29. What makes you feel sad? Death 30. What makes you feel happy? Motivated People 31. Pretend that you can fly whenever you wanted. Where would you go?  England 32. If I could choose a different name, I would choose… Joey or Chandler or Bernardo 33. Where do you want to go on vacation? Milan 34. What is your favorite thing to do with Mom or Dad? Dad= Go to Carnival  Host Mom=Talking

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20 Questions - Angelina 2015

2015-03-03 16:27:36

1. What is your favorite color? Purple 2. What is your favorite toy? Kindle 3. What is your favorite fruit? Watermelon 4. What is your favorite tv show? Cake Boss 5. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch? Lunchables 6. What is your favorite outfit? School Uniform 7. What is your favorite game? Animal Jam (PC) 8. What is your favorite snack? Chocolate Pudding 9. What is your favorite animal? Dolphin 10. What is your favorite song? I Am by Angelina McCall 11. What is your favorite book? Wonder by R.J. Palacio 12. Who is your best friend? Marinda and Jocelyn and Bryan and Desi 13. What is your favorite cereal? Lucky Charms 14. What is your favorite thing to do outside? Play Games 15. What is your favorite drink? Hot Chocolate 16. What is your favorite holiday? 4th of July 17. What do you like to take to bed with you at night? My Little Brother Jacob :) He’s squishy 18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Cereal 19. What do you want for dinner on your birthday? Dinner at the Movies 20. What do you want to be when you grow up?  The Doctor

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20 Questions - Phoebe 2015

2015-03-03 16:22:03

1. What is your favorite color? Pink 2. What is your favorite toy? Toofs (Shopkins) 3. What is your favorite fruit? Strawberries 4. What is your favorite tv show? Garfield and Friends 5. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch? Ramen Noodles 6. What is your favorite outfit? Pink Ones 7. What is your favorite game? Kitty Pie….Made up game. 8. What is your favorite snack? Frozen Fruit Snacks 9. What is your favorite animal? Kitty 10. What is your favorite song? Blow by Ke$ha 11. What is your favorite book? Wonder by R.J. Palacio 12. Who is your best friend? Chloe 13. What is your favorite cereal? Cinnamon Toast Crunch 14. What is your favorite thing to do outside? Play with Ella 15. What is your favorite drink? Hot Chocolate 16. What is your favorite holiday? Valentine’s Day 17. What do you like to take to bed with you at night? My kitty blankie 18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast? Apples 19. What do you want for dinner on your birthday? China Moon Buffet 20. What do you want to be when you grow up?  Help People (Like a PCA)

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My name is Lisa and I'm an ISFJ

2015-03-01 12:29:39

isfj-1024x330 Over the past year I have been very interested in learning all about the 16 Myers Briggs personality types.  I have taken a few tests based on the MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator).  The first time I took it, I scored as an INFP.  I read all about that personality type and thought Ya, this kind of sounds like me. Cool.  Later on, I took a similar free test that I found online at 16Personalities.com.  This time, I scored as an ISFJ (as well as on subsequent tests).  I then submerged myself in research about that type and thought, “Wow! This fits me to a T!” It felt good to be able to see some of the reasons for who I am on paper.  It was almost as if the person who wrote the description understood me and was speaking directly to me.  Maybe other people wont find their results as accurate, but it’s fun to explore.  Since I have a huge need for information, I can sometimes get carried away with it. I also wrongly assume everyone else has the same need for information, so sometimes I overshare ;)  That, coupled with the fact that I tend to feel like I have to defend myself and my crazy personality often, led me to decide to share what I’ve learned. Hope it’s helpful in understanding why I am the way I am.  If it’s not, keep your opinions to yourself..ISFJ’s dislike confrontation! ;)


ISFJ Details
The ISFJ personality type is quite unique, as many of their qualities defy the definition of their individual traits. Though possessing the Feeling (F) trait, ISFJs have excellent analytical abilities; though Introverted (I), they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and though they are a Judging (J) type, ISFJs are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, people with the ISFJ personality type are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.  ISFJs are true altruists, meeting kindness with kindness-in-excess and engaging the work and people they believe in with enthusiasm and generosity.

STRENGTHS

  • SupportiveISFJs are the universal helpers, sharing their knowledge, experience, time and energy with anyone who needs it, and all the more so with friends and family. People with this personality type strive for win-win situations, choosing empathy over judgment whenever possible. Very true.  Even if I don’t like you, I’ll do what I can to help. If I DO like you however, theres no limit to what I’ll do for you.
  • Reliable and PatientRather than offering sporadic, excited rushes that leave things half finished, ISFJs are meticulous and careful, taking a steady approach and bending with the needs of the situation just enough to accomplish their end goals. ISFJs not only ensure that things are done to the highest standard, but often go well beyond what is required. My patience has thinned some since becoming a single parent, but in general, I’m pretty patient.  I’ll wait on action until I’m ready.  Sometimes it’s because I want to gather more information. Sometimes its to give the person or situation a chance to change direction.  As long as it doesn’t go against my principles, I also try to do what I can to stay flexible and empathetic so I can help in the way that is needed, instead of my preference.
  • Imaginative and ObservantISFJs are very imaginative, and use this quality as an accessory to empathy, observing others’ emotional states and seeing things from their perspective. With their feet firmly planted on the ground, it is a very practical imagination, though they do find things quite fascinating and inspiring. My imagination is pretty vivid lol. I like to imagine how I would feel in a situation to better empathize with someone.  I also treat people the way I’d want to be treated if I were in a similar situation.  I notice a lot. Sometimes other’s may think I am daydreaming or uninterested in the goings on. In reality I’m constantly taking in information and storing it away, linking it up with past information I find relevant.  I guard the information I take in. I use it to build my opinions of the situation. I don’t like people knowing what I know. If I do let on that I know about something, it’s because I want you to know that I know.  You know that comment you made to someone you thought I couldn’t hear? I heard it. It’s been filed away for future processing.
  • EnthusiasticWhen the goal is right, ISFJs take all this support, reliability and imagination and apply it to something they believe will make a difference in people’s lives – whether fighting poverty with a global initiative or simply making a customer’s day.  I have a huge amount of enthusiasm when i know i’m helping someone.  If they show they appreciate it, I will continue to bend over backwards for them. My reward is knowing I’m doing something that adds to their happiness.
  • Loyal and Hard-WorkingGiven a little time, this enthusiasm grows into loyalty – ISFJ personalities often form an emotional attachment to the ideas and organizations they’ve dedicated themselves to. Anything short of meeting their obligations with good, hard work fails their own expectations.  I’m not happy with an outcome if I think I could have done better. I want to scrap it all and start over to make sure it’s the best because I want to give my best to the things that are super important to me.  My tendency for perfectionism can play a huge roll here and sometimes it gets in the way of working as a team.
  • Good Practical SkillsThe best part is, ISFJs have the practical sense to actually do something with all this altruism. If mundane, routine tasks are what need to be done, ISFJs can see the beauty and harmony that they create, because they know that it helps them to care for their friends, family, and anyone else who needs it.  I don’t care what it is, if it’s something I can do to help, I do it because I know it provides a benefit to someone. Even if that benefit is just more freetime for them to enjoy or a smile that brightened their day.  You never know the ripple effect your actions can have on someone or the world around them.

ISFJ WEAKNESSES

  • Humble and ShyThe meek shall inherit the earth, but it’s a long road if they receive no recognition at all. This is possibly ISFJs’ biggest challenge, as they are so concerned with others’ feelings that they refuse to make their thoughts known, or to take any duly earned credit for their contributions. ISFJs’ standards for themselves are also so high that, knowing they could have done some minor aspect of a task better, they often downplay their successes entirely.  I don’t want to cause conflict, so I usually keep my mouth shut.  I focus on always doing the right thing and making people happy.  If someone does something for me, I HAVE to find a way to do something thoughtful in return.  I’m definitely too shy. Sometimes I’ll have a solution to a problem but I’m afraid of being wrong or criticized , so I don’t tell anyone.  The words could be on the tip of my tongue, but I wont be able to physically speak them, no matter how hard I try.  Give me a pen and paper though and you may get a 50 page dissertation ;)  I am never happy with things I do. I could make a delicious gourmet meal but would think it was just OK, because I made it.  Anything I create, I think  Hey that looks awesome..for about 10 seconds. Then I hate it.  It’s not good enough.
  • Take Things Too PersonallyISFJs have trouble separating personal and impersonal situations – any situation is still an interaction between two people, after all – and any negativity from conflict or criticism can carry over from their professional to their personal lives, and back again. I have a bad habit of taking out frustrations with one person on another.  I’m working on recognizing that so I can stop it before it gets ugly.  I also need a lot of positive feedback, especially from the people I care most about.  Compliments, deeds, physical touch, etc are so very appreciated and important to me.  If you don’t hug me, I feel like I’ve done something wrong or you don’t care about me.  If you don’t tell me I’m pretty, I will think you don’t like the way I look, regardless of how I feel about myself.  If you don’t tell me you appreciate something, I will feel as if I wasted my time and effort on you.  The longer I go without positive reinforcement, I will become bitter. Depending on the need, i will still do things for you, but I will be resentful the entire time I’m doing it.
  • Repress Their FeelingsPeople with the ISFJ personality type are private and very sensitive, internalizing their feelings a great deal. Much in the way that ISFJs protect others’ feelings, they must protect their own, and this lack of healthy emotional expression can lead to a lot of stress and frustration.  This is part of the avoiding conflict trait.  Also, sharing my feelings makes me vulnerable and the number of people I can be completely vulnerable with can be counted on one hand.  I don’t like to give people the tools with which to hurt me, so my walls are constantly up. If you take them down, tread carefully. You have the power to hurt me more deeply than you can imagine.  This also means that I’m keeping a lot of my perceived offences (like not showing appreciation or making me feel judged/criticized) to myself and it builds and builds. Soon, all of my repressed emotions can explode in a massive verbal attack. You do not want to be around when that happens. Leave the conversation until we both calm down. It’s really best.
  • Overload ThemselvesTheir strong senses of duty and perfectionism combine with this aversion to emotional conflict to create a situation where it is far too easy for ISFJs to overload themselves – or to be overloaded by others – as they struggle silently to meet everyone’s expectations, especially their own. Nothing truly makes me happier than helping people.  Which means I want everyone to come to me with their problems.. I also have a tendency to believe that I CAN solve everyone’s problems.  When someone doesn’t come to me with a problem and either goes to someone else, or suffers silently, I am offended and take it very personally…even if I already have 14 other things I’m trying to take care of.  If I AM overloaded, I’m also relieved at the same time that they didn’t ask for my help.  It’s an odd contradiction.  If my stress becomes too much, it gets ugly.  I can’t cope. I have to stop everything and isolate completely. Sleeping is also a good reset for me when this happens.
  • Reluctant to ChangeThese challenges can be particularly hard to address since ISFJ personalities value traditions and history highly in their decisions. A situation sometimes needs to reach a breaking point before ISFJs are persuaded by circumstance, or the strong personality of a loved one, to alter course. This is an odd trait of mine.  I like to plan things. I am very uneasy until there is a plan in place.  I don’t always share this plan, but it’s there.  Once the plan is made, I could care less if it’s thrown out the window and a spontaneous “plan” is created.  I just need the initial structure.  BUT, if something happens that alters my emotional state and I am not prepared for it, I can’t handle it.  My emotions get all crazy and my anxiety level goes through the roof. I begin to cling to what I want so that I can slowly come to terms with the change before letting it go.
  • Too AltruisticThis is all compounded and reinforced by ISFJs’ otherwise wonderful quality of altruism. Being such warm, good-natured people, ISFJs are willing to let things slide, to believe that things will get better soon, to not burden others by accepting their offers of help, while their troubles mount unassisted. I have been told many times that I’m too nice lol. It can be a serious curse. Combine this with my ISFJ inability to say no, and I find myself taken advantage of often. It’s been very rare that I’ve felt my needs and wants were taken care of.  I also give people waaaaaay too many chances to change.  I want to believe they can. That they just need the opportunity to prove me wrong.  Over and over.  I really can’t help it.  I truly believe the situation WILL change, and if I don’t give someone the opportunity to prove they have changed, then I’m being close minded and judgmental.
ISFJ personalities (especially Turbulent ones) are often meticulous to the point of perfectionism, and though they procrastinate, they can always be relied on to get the job done on time. ISFJs take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond, doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, at work and at home.

A Closer Look at ISFJ:

ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their “need to be needed.” .. ISFJs are often unappreciated, at work, home, and play. ISFJs are notoriously bad at delegating (“If you want it done right, do it yourself”).1  This is soooo true.  I’ll do a lot myself because it’s quicker and easier and I’m certain it will be done to my standards. It can frustrate me that someone isn’t putting the same time, effort, and perfectionism as I would into what they are doing, so I end up redoing it anyway. It’s totally possible that the work the other person put it was great, I just thought it could be better and so I just do it myself. Although they’re hurt by being treated like doormats, they are often unwilling to toot their own horns about their accomplishments because they feel that although they deserve more credit than they’re getting, it’s somehow wrong to want any sort of reward for doing work (which is supposed to be a virtue in itself).2 Also true.  I do a lot without recognition. I don’t do it FOR the recognition, but when my sacrifices and hard work are appreciated, the recognition makes me want to give more and do more for that person or cause.  When it’s not, the offences pile up and pile up till my negative emotions explode. It also may not be directed at the appropriate person.  I’m trying to work on that.

ISFJ Relationships

A responsible companion, ISFJ tries very hard to ensure that the relationship reaches as high a standard as possible. That is not to imply that they are overly strict, but they tend to take on more than their share of the work in a relationship in an attempt to utilize all of the potential within the connection.  ISFJ’s  will often do things for their mate in order to please them or to receive a positive, appreciative response. The ISFJ has a strong need to know that they are loved, appreciated, and accepted by their mate. If they do not receive enough positive input regarding their role and efforts in the relationship then they will begin to feel as though they have failed. If this were to go on long enough, ISFJ will eventually live in an internal world of self-blame. 3 This is soooo true. I bend over BACKWARDS for the people I love. Even if it’s detrimental to myself.    I also need to feel like I’m important to them; I need to feel appreciated and loved.  If I don’t, I start thinking about all  the things I probably did wrong. I feel like I’m unloved and I’m just being used and taken advantage of, as is usually the trend for ISFJ’s.  Comments like “Hey, thanks for buying me that card, for no reason.  It made me smile.” or “Dinner was great, I appreciate it!” or “You look great tonight, I’m looking forward to spending a night out with you” But it does’t have to be in words. It can be in actions as well. Surprise me with flowers or a card, pull me towards you and hug me tightly for longer than 5 seconds. Cuddle with me and caress my skin.. like your thumb rubbing my shoulder, or lingering kisses on my forehead.  Sweet stuff.  Romantic gestures.  I crave that.  It’s how I feel truly appreciated.   The biggest thing though, is that I have to be able to feel like I can rely on my partner.  If I can’t have that, I will remain unfulfilled permanently. So, after ALL that, hopefully you’ve learned some things about me, or maybe some other ISFJ in your life.  Finding out my personality type has helped me learn more about myself and my strengths and weaknesses.  If you want to find out your personality type, take the free test at 16Personalities.com.  My ISFJ profile above is pulled from there, unless otherwise noted.

I’m an ISFJ, what are you?

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