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The wonderful people at WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing (A Division of Random House) supplied me with this book to review, and then gift to my readers, as part of their Blogging for Books Program. The rules for the giveaway can be found below my review. Thanks for reading! If you haven’t read my previous post about this book, you can check it out here
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The Friends We Keep by Sarah Zacharias Davis
Chaos Chronicles Rating: Rating: 




“Sometimes you fall so hard that you need more than one person to catch you”
That is my favorite quote of the whole book. That one sentence sums up what I feel I’ve been missing in my friendships. A close-knit circle of friends.
I crave what the The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants have; That one special group of friends who are always there for you, as well as each other. I have a few “best friends”, but either they live to far apart to be part of a “sisterhood” or they don’t know my other friends.
In her book, Sarah talks about the possibilities of looking/choosing the type of friends that we wish we were, or long to become… I think it’s true in a way. Becoming friends with someone who embodies aspects of our ideal self, allows us to experience new things through that friend (vicariously or otherwise), and even inspires us to move out of our comfort zones and try new things.
Sarah also discusses common friendship roles found in today’s world. I am definitely a Meg friend. I feel this describes me perfectly:
“In relationships where one gives and one takes rather than both give and take, this nurturing friend finds there is no one to mother her. Where does she turn when she has an inevitable crisis or wants to have a melt down? Where can she go when she needs someone to speak real wisdom into her life? The nurturing, mothering friend probably won’t go to the friends she mothers- and they may not handle it well if she does. When she just needs to fall, who is both prepared and strong enough to catch her?”
I have a friend that I consider to be my best friend, but i feel there is something missing. Through reading this book, I’ve realized two things. It’s an issue of trust and of baring my soul. I am not comfortable enough in our friendship to be that vulnerable with her because I fear being judged and/or misunderstood. I hold back because I know she isn’t strong enough to be what I need, and I fear our friendship may not survive the fallout due to lack of support from her. The other thing I realized is that I harbor some resentment from knowing that I am there for her more than she is there for me. I give freely, yet she gives what suits her at the time.
This book was definitely an eye opening look into my friendships. Both with other women, as well as a friendship with myself (which is something you will learn about while reading this book).
This book also made me cry, though not because it’s sad. This book has a truth that i felt to my core. I identified with it. I felt the losses of past friendships and the birth of new ones. I understood a small aspect of friendship dynamics and where I fit into it all.
I also felt the familiar longing for a group of anamchara’s (Gaelic). Soul Sisters. It renewed in me a motivation to try and create such a group, full knowing that those kinds of circles are not created by planning and searching, but by fate; by God. I can only hope that my efforts to create such a bond will be blessed and, with God’s guidance, turn into the storybook friendship circles I long for. Maybe I’m being naive, but I’m certain that I will at least come out of my search changed for the better, as I go deeper into my a friendship with God and self, while searching for my sworn sisters.
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